How Childhood Trauma Can Impact your Adult Relationship

Having a traumatic childhood can have a lasting impact on your life. It can influence many aspects of your life, including the relationships you forge as an adult. What happened to you as a child can affect the ‘attachment style’ you carry into your relationships as an adult. Trauma has a significant influence on attachment. If you want robust and long-lasting adult relationships, it is essential to seek treatment to help you overcome your childhood trauma. There are many different types of treatment, including hypnosis for childhood trauma. With the help of the right professional, you can find the right therapy and treatment that can help you create successful adult relationships.

Ways that Childhood Trauma Can Affect Your Adult Relationship

Here’s a look at how childhood trauma may impact your adult relationship.

1. Development of Insecure or Dismissive-Avoidant Style: Childhood trauma may cause you to develop a dismissive-avoidant or insecure-avoidant attachment style, which is likely to cause you to keep partners at an emotional distance or avoid close relationships. You may keep secrets, push people away, hide your feelings, or shut down when other people show emotion. However, despite this seeming disinterest in intimacy and these behaviors mentioned above, people with an insecure-avoidant attachment style often feel alone and desire relationships.

2. Development of Disorganized-Disoriented or Fearful-Avoidant Style: When you get hurt as a child by the person who is supposed to care for you, you could grow up fearing both being alone and intimacy. People with this attachment style often have difficulty trusting people, may be uncomfortable showing affection, are terrified of rejection and close themselves off emotionally.

3. Development of Anxious-Preoccupied or Insecure-Ambivalent Style: Adults who develop this type of attachment style are always watchful of any changes that take place in their relationship – sometimes to the point of paranoia. Therefore, they are often called “clingy.” They have low self-esteem, have a lot of mood swings, and feel like they are more devoted to their partner than their partner is to them.

Get the help you need to overcome your childhood trauma. Schedule an appointment with Dr. Eva A. Malanowski at 303-242-7824.